Monday, August 25, 2008

Building A Home

A Gracious Home
A Learning Experience
A Titus 2 Project
A Walk In My Garden
A Wise Woman Builds Her Home
All Girl Homeschool
Aspiring to Simplicity
Aussie Mama 4 Jesus
...Beautiful Days...
Being Greg Green's Wife
Biblical Womanhood
Birth of a Midwife
Blackwells: American Reflections on Life in England
But I Digress...
Charming the Birds From the Trees
Chelsea's Adventures
Christian Homemaking
Christian Homemaking & Homeschooling Questions
Clarke Family Website
Clay in the Hands
Clothes Line Alley
Consider the Lilies
Domestic Felicity
EmmyJMommy's Spot
Ever Faithful
Families Against Feminism: The Great Debate
Free Indeed
Grace Upon Grace
Gwendolyn Q. Mommyblogger
happy to be so
Heart at Home
Hearty Works
Help Meet
Home Hearts Journal
i love my life
In Beauty and In Grace
In His Footsteps
Keeper of My Home
Ladies Against Feminism
Laughable Lunacy
Life is Better on Paper
Life is Not a Cereal
Lily of the Valley
Muddy Boots
Musings of a Housewife
My Daily Bread
Of Noble Character
Old Fashioned Lady
On Foreign Soil
Ornaments of Grace
Perennial Wonder
Pressing On
Proverbs 31 Woman Wannabe
Pursuing Faith
Redbud's Lane
Sarah Joy Albrecht
School in the Sun
Sealjoy's Studies
Seeking Yahweh
Serving God & Family
Sharing Life
Strange Kind of Single
Sunydazy Days
The Cappuccino Life
The Face Behind the Camera
The Family Revised
The Flourishing Mother
The Hermit of the Southern March
The Simple Shepherdess
The Ugly Trunk
The Walled Garden
The Wayne Report
The Westbrooks
This Mama's Trip
Thoughts of Home
Unfolding Grace
van gordon views
View From My Place
Virtuous Woman
Walk Slowly, Live Wildly

Monday, August 18, 2008

We've all heard of (and likely experienced) the "Mommy Wars". As mothers, we can feel completely removed from other believers, if we make a parenting choice that is contrary to what they are choosing or what they chose. No matter where you live, if you're reading this and you're a mom, you've likely faced one of these issues, and may have butted heads with another Christian about it:
Stay at home vs. Career moms

Breast vs. Bottle

Spanking: Biblical or no?

Quiverfull vs. any limiting of family size at all

Schooling choices

Video Games

Sleep issues (co-sleeping, front/back sleeping)

How often children get baths

How soon to talk about x, y, or z with your kids


Extracurricular activities

So many women feel beaten down for their choices. Or feel proud and combative about their choices. Or feel angry about other people's choices. Or feel bitter about other people's reactions to their choices. The thing is, none of those outcomes are good. Mommy wars are so very likely to end in pride, heartache, and frustration. With each other. With ourselves. And that's not the way we Christians are supposed to interact with one another.

There are some good things that can come when we share about our OWN choices. Curious people are satisfied. Confused people find more clarity. Unsure people may find sure footing (either in agreement or disagreement). Even people who are confident in their own choices may find their views/opinions sharpened and strengthened by hearing various other viewpoints. Sharing the biblical basis for our own decisions in parenting, home life, or marriage can be helpful for others who are either peers traveling the road with us, or for those who are slightly behind us on the road... to serve as guideposts for them as they eventually face some of the same choices in life.

But even in that (just talking about our own choices), we need to be careful. In electronic format, words can be so easily misinterpreted, and the same sentence can carry completely different meanings if read with venom or honey as the perceived "attitude". Here are some principles I see in Romans 14 (a chapter about Christian disagreement) that can be helpful for us mommies as we sort through and discuss these issues of motherhood, particularly online: (I'll share my own thoughts of what we can infer from each command behind each bolded main idea.)

1. Welcome others. (vs. 1) - We are, in our flesh, unwelcoming. We are quick to section ourselves off into groups of those with whom we agree.
2. Do not quarrel over opinions (vs. 1) - We are, in our flesh, argumentative. We like to be "right".
3. Do not pass judgment on others (vs. 4, 10) - We are, in our flesh, critical and condemning. We like to be a part of "us" and not "them".
4. Be fully convinced in your own mind (vs. 5) - We may walk around airing opinions that we aren't fully convinced of. We may have a tendency to not think through things carefully.
5. Do not despise one another (vs. 10) - In our flesh, we may feel hatred for or look down on the people with whom we disagree. Though we are called to love, our disagreements can quickly deteriorate that love we are to have for one another.
6. Remember that we will give an account to God (vs. 12) - Not only for our words, but for our actions and beliefs. We are quick to forget that we're each responsible for our own lives.
7. Decide never to put a stumbling block in the way of someone else (vs. 13) - We can unnecessarily build walls or barriers between us and others.
8. Don't intentionally and overtly do something to grieve another believer (vs. 15) - We can cause pain to others by our choices and words.
9. Pursue peace (vs. 19) - We should major on the things that we can agree on with the Christians around us.
10. Pursue what will mutually build up one another (vs. 19) - Find common ground and strive to sharpen one another in that area. This doesn't come naturally; we have to work at it.
11. Even if you have peace about something, if it grieves another believer, don't make a show of it. (vs. 20-22)
12. Whatever you do, do it in faith. (vs. 23)

Good stuff. It's amazing how the Bible really does speak into our lives, even from nearly 2,000 years ago. Any thoughts?


Monday, August 11, 2008

Kitchen Stuff

ChandeliersFour Chandeliers for the Kitchen

Light Cleaning TipsEasy-Care Tips That Keep Fixtures Bright

Reduce GlareFour Tips for Cutting Bulb Glare

Low-Cost LightsKitchen Lighting: Brilliance on a Budget

Energy-Saving BulbsChange a Bulb, Change the World, Save Some Green

Lighting ChecklistHot Tips from a Lighting Pro

Lighting PlanKitchen Lighting: A Layered Proposition

Using Feng ShuiDesigning Your Kitchen the Feng Shui Way

Hot Trends9 Hot Trends For Today's Kitchens

Glass TileThe Pros and Cons of Glass Tile

Choosing CabinetsSorting Through Kitchen Cabinet Choices

Kitchen RemodelHow Much Kitchen Do You Need?

Cool Kitchen Stuff12 Ways to Hike Your Kitchen Personality

Easy Being Green5 Simple Ways to Go Green in the Kitchen

Your Green ProFinding a Green Pro

Green StrategiesStrategies for Going Green

Eco-Kitchen TipsElements of a Green Kitchen

Green Kitchen IdeasDesign Your Green Kitchen Now

Picking TileMaking Tile Selection Simple and Fun

Tile TrendsStyle Your Kitchen with the Latest in Tile

Tile ShoppingTile Shopping with Ann Sacks

Monday, August 4, 2008

Kitchen Stuff 2

Vinyl TileThe Pros and Cons of Vinyl Tile

Engineered TileThe Pros and Cons of Engineered Stone Tile

Concrete TileThe Pros and Cons of Concrete Tile

Granite TileThe Pros and Cons of Granite Tile

Slate TileThe Pros and Cons of Slate Tile

Marble TileThe Pros and Cons of Marble Tile

Ceramic TileThe Pros and Cons of Ceramic Tile

Porcelain TileThe Pros and Cons of Porcelain Tile

Terrazzo TileThe Pros and Cons of Terrazzo Tile

Terra Cotta TileThe Pros and Cons of Terra Cotta Tile

Style TestKitchen Rorschach Test: What's Your Style?

Outdoor KitchensBone Up on Outdoor Kitchen Basics

Ergonomic KitchenSmart Tips for the Ergonomic Kitchen

Kitchen ZonesThink Outside the Triangle

Prosumer UpgradeUpdating Your Kitchen for Pro-Style Equipment

Prosumer KitchenSo What's a Prosumer Kitchen?

Tile BasicsHow to Choose Kitchen Tile

Kitchen PitfallsAvoid the Top 3 Kitchen Design Pitfalls

Kitchen PointsTriangulate Your Kitchen Plan

Design Tips5 Steps to Kitchen Design Success

Countertop BasicsChoosing the Right Kitchen Countertops